Stimulating Story Time

Good children’s literature and read alouds are an essential component of a Charlotte Mason education.  Literature is foundational to learning language, building vocabulary, discovering the world and ideas and stimulating creative imaginations!

Reading aloud is a vital skill and here are some tips to making story time stimulating and fun ~

book-farmPictures Your child’s first books should have interesting illustrations.  Many children’s books have amazing artistic pictures which inspire children’s imaginations.  Non-fiction books need bright, clear photos or illustrations.  Don’t hesitate to stop and enjoy each illustration and use them to connect your child with the story.  Very young kids love to find things in detailed pictures. “Can you find the little yellow duck?”  “Where is the red bucket?”  “How many blue balls can you see?”  Older children enjoy copying illustrations they find inspiring.  I often encourage my young kids to illustrate their narrations.

indexSounds – When reading aloud to your children, you and your kids should try make sound effect noises for animals, machines, weather and simple things that may happen in the story such as knocking on a door.  Young children love to participate in the stories with all the sounds and actions.  Boys, especially seem genetically created to make sound effects, so use it to make your stories come alive!

Accents and voices – Be ridiculous and make funny voices and accents for different characters.  red-sails-to-capriMy teenagers and young adult children still smile when they remember my ridiculous Italian accent when I read “Red Sails to Capri” and my over-the-top American accent (we are South Africans, so this was unusual for us) when I read “Strawberry Girl“.  Even animal characters need their own voices.  Go ahead and dramatize the story with your voice — your kids will love it!

Tone and emotion – Ue your voice to create moods and convey feelings.  Read aloud and vary your voice for effect — soft and slow for scary sections,  high, excitied voice for a happy piece, or slow and low voice to convey someone who is sad or depressed.

Pause – Use a pause to create tension and encourage your child’s participation.  A young child will jump in with a prompt when the story is paused for a brief moment — “The three bears walked into the bedroom and saw …” pause … “Goldilocks!” I loved using cliffhangers, and my children would beg me to continue.  Isn’t this the true joy of learning through literature?

And if all else fails, invest in audiobooks.  Librivox provides free audiobooks, but check the version before downloading as some books are recorded with monotone voices and dreary pacing.

Encourage your children to read aloud to you with expression.

Wishing you many happy years of amazing reading aloud in your homeschooling!

Blessings, Nadene




Illustrated Narrations

A reader wrote and asked me,

“I understand that my 10-year-old should be writing some of his narrations, but he still balks when faced with his blank notebook page.  How do I encourage his early written narrations.  He’s very visual and artistic.  Does an illustration count as narrations?”

Narrations (or “telling back”) are the cornerstone of a Charlotte Mason education and this complex learning activity takes years to master before your child can confidently write his written narrations.  Illustrations are an excellent starting point for early narrations.

Here are some creative narration ideas ~

  • Draw or illustrate the most important scene/ the ending/ the main character/ the surroundings/ machines or inventions mentioned.  Draw articles mentioned instead of making lists.  My kindergartener start drawing pictures of their narrations in a large jotter.   Sometimes this was part of their “busy hands with listening ears” activity while I read aloud.  Afterwards,  as they told me what they remembered of the story, I jotted their narrations next to or under their illustration, capturing a detailed, personal retelling.
  • Earth Solar System Comics 004Mom prints the child’s dictated narration next to or under their illustrations in pencil.  Encourage young writers to then trace over the penciled narration with a colored pen or felt-tipped pen.  This forms excellent handwriting practice and develops the child’s handwriting stamina.  It also looks like “their own” narration — which it is!
  • Draw a comic strip of the narration.  A comic strip can include a massive amount of information!    Comics with just 6 blocks can easily sum up entire chapters and are great for imaginative, visual children.  Comic strips help a child order or sequence their narrations. We did a whole series of comic strips for our Astronomy studies.  Here is my free blank comic notebooking page.
  • a model or 3D image.  Children love creating paper or cardstock models, like the 3D Little House in the Big Woods.  My children loved to illustrate, color in and cut out the windows, doors, and other folds which, when pasted correctly, formed three-dimensional illustrations.  Young children love to lift flaps and look inside doors and windows!
  • those Lego blocks for narrations!  Children draw the backdrops and characters for the scenes in the reading.  Punch suitably sized and spaced holes into the cardstock to fit the Lego blocks and clip in between Lego blocks to stand upright.   Children can “act out” their narrations.  They placed their cardstock scenes and characters into an envelope pasted on their notebook page to store them safely.
  • minibooks instead of a large notebook page.  This helps the child feel more confident that he just has a small space to fill  and he need not fill a whole blank notebook page.   I often combined minibooks with my notebook pages.  The image and heading on the front of the minibook provided an excellent narration prompt.  My young kids loved these minibooks and enjoyed planning their own page layout and often filled a large notebook page with several narration-filled booklets.  A real Win-Win!
  • Lapbooks follow the same principle mentioned above and we used lapbooks for almost all  middle school subjects.   I believe that lapbooks are an excellent transition to formal notebook narrations.

I hope that these ideas help and encourage you and your child develop creative narrations!

Blessings, Nadene







Oral narrations when a child hates writing

A reader wrote and asked me ~

“How can I help my son?  He absolutely hates writing narrations!  He sulks, delays, refuses and sometimes has a complete meltdown.  I know that he knows the work, but he just hates putting pen to paper.  What can I do?”

Here are some suggestions ~

Firstly, ask yourself why he is reacting so strongly.  Stress, immaturity and lack of readiness and writing skills can result in negative emotional reactions.  Take the pressure off and back up and away from any writing.  Go back to oral narrations.   Remember that oral skills develop long before written skills.

Some young children even battle at this stage. They freeze when they have to formulate their own version of the story or theme they have listened to.  My youngest couldn’t figure out how to start.  Or there were chapters which she found difficult to order (sequence) correctly.  My one child didn’t know how to keep to the point and rambled with long, draw-out sentences.  p1150685

Narrations require powerful mental strength! While the child actively listens, he  connects to the story, visualizing, comprehending, synthesizing and then remembering and articulating his thoughts.  He must take all the new information and sort, arrange, select, reject, classify and relate all the intricate details of the selection he heard.

Here are some tips on how to break down oral narrations ~

  • Prepare your child before you read.  Tell them, “I want you to listen carefully to the read aloud and after I have finished reading, I want you to tell me back what I have read to you.”
  • Paragraphs ~ Only narrate short stories or selections about one paragraph long.  Read a simple story such as a nursery rhyme or an Aesop’s fable.  By eight or nine years of age, a child should be able to narrate several paragraphs, and only at about 10 years should a child be able to narrate a chapter.  This would apply to all subjects.  Until your child manages to convey detailed, accurate oral narrations at this stage, he is not going to manage any written narration.
  • Prompts ~ Instead of telling back the story, use questions to focus on a specific aspect of the story such as:
    • What is the main event?
    • What did the main character do/ say/ or discover?
    • Why do you think the main character did ….?
    • Can you think of your own ending to this chapter?
    • Can you list at least 5 main points in this reading?
    • Can you sequence (put into order) the events that happened?
    • Give a very detailed description of the place/ season/ weather/ surroundings in this reading.
    • What action or character’s reaction impressed you?
  • Pictures ~ many young children find looking back at the illustrations in the story very helpful.  As they mature, they will learn to form and remember  their own metal image of the reading.  Looking at a timeline,  a natural science lifecycle or illustration is absolutely fine.  Gently encourage your child to develop this mental process and ask them to look and then tell without looking.

Don’t worry if your older child spends longer developing these oral narration skills.  Keep working on his mental processes and articulating his thoughts clearly before moving towards capturing written narrations.

Some children may have the necessary verbal skills, but have writing issues.  It may be the stress of physical mastery in actually writing print or cursive, or fear of spelling errors or fatigue when trying to capture everything on paper.  Again, break down the problem and use alternatives.

Here are some creative variations ~ 

  • Record the oral narrations – on a smart phone/ on the computer/on a tape recorder/ use a dictaphone/ use a video recorder.  Play it back and let him edit or re-do it if he is not satisfied.
  • Be his scribe and write out/ type his narrations for him word-for-word as he speaks.
  • Dramatize the narration if it is possible.  Some children lacking verbal skills may more effectively mime and dramatize their thoughts.  Act out a scene from the story/ create the introduction or ending of the chapter.

I wrote “What Works ~ Teach Creative Writing Without Lessons” post after my eldest graduated from homeschool and I can absolutely guarantee that narrations, first oral, then dictated, and written, have given my children all the writing skills they have ever needed for high school.  Not only that, but they are exceptional writers!  (Pop over to this post to read examples of their essays and narrations!)  They are eloquent, creative and highly skilles writers … without ever teaching them creative writing!

Narrations are the foundation for all learning!

Hope that these suggestions help you bring the relief and joy back to your narration sessions.

Blessings, Nadene



Natural Language Arts

Most people think of Language Arts as a formal, tedious grammar program. but essentially, language flows naturally from listening and mimicking (copying) and speaking to reading and writing.  (Think how a baby learns to speak.)

Reading good literature is the best way to learn grammar.  Using living books and reading aloud regularly, your child  will not require formal instruction to naturally learn new vocabulary and the essential grammar concepts for quite a few years.

Begin this natural language learning with this simple Charlotte Mason approach = Read aloud + active listening followed by oral narrations (retelling the story in their own words).  For older children, continue with dictated narrations (child tells the story while mom jots or types it word for word.   (Read my post Mom the Narrations Scribe) and finally the child’s own written narrations.  No formal written Language Art lessons yet.

I discovered how true this was when my preschooler narrated the story I had just read aloud to her.   When she retold the story, she used an unusual, new word, “skittered”.  She enjoyed this lovely, descriptive word in the story and made it her own in her narration.   A 4-year-old can narrate with detail and passion!  Read how I capture preschoolers and junior schooler’s narrations in a jotter.

You can start some Copywork once your child starts mastering their handwriting.  Select a simple sentence or two, such as a memory verse or from a reader and encourage your child to first read it aloud and then copy it out neatly.  This daily practice reinforces meaningful handwriting practice, but, more importantly, it provides daily examples of good language and sentence structure.  You’ll be amazed how such a simple activity can build your child’s own language and writing skills!  (You can find loads of my free copywork pages here.)

Wait until your child is about 9  or 10 years old before including formal grammar rules and language art lessons.  Use extracts from their current read aloud (or other suitable examples) and examine the building blocks; the formal aspects of how the sentences are built and arranged.

Now, don’t get too stressed about what extract to use.  Your extract can be anything simple.  Bible verses, memory verses, famous quotes, poems or simply a sentence or two from the real aloud will be good.  I must emphasize that this is the great part of this natural language learning = it is meaningfully in context.  In other words, your child is not doing numbered sentences or lists applying a rule to random sentences, but can see its significance and importance in the relevant extract.

Ruth Beechick’s “A Strong Start in Language” (ISBN number in my Book List page) is perhaps the best simple book on how to teach language!  Ruth Beeschick gives loads of basic examples, lays out all the suggested grade levels and makes simple and easy-to-apply suggestions.  With this book in hand, you can create all your children’s language arts lessons! 

Note:  Do language arts as a short separate lesson and not while reading aloud.  If you constantly pepper reading aloud with grammar and vocabulary extension tips and lessons, you will kill your child’s enjoyment and frustrate their listening.  I did this in my early years of “mom-the-teacher” enthusiasm and in my desire not to “miss a learning moment”.  Silly me.   When I learnt to trust a child’s natural learning process through listening, reinforced with short, sweet separate LA activities, I relaxed and let the reading flow.

What are the basic Language Arts?  Grammar is the building blocks of language. Essentially it is not necessary to get too technical and do sentence analysis and sentence diagraming.  Simply let your child find the proper nouns or nouns/ or verbs/ adjectives/ etc. in the given extract.  My kids loved underlining, circling, boxing, ticking or highlighting the correct words.  They enjoyed drawing ticks and arrows above punctuation marks.

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an example of what my kids called “circles and squiggles” LA

Include some word searches, dictionary work, finding or writing their own antonyms and synonyms and you have a great vocabulary extension exercise.

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Look up definitions in a dictionary, or find/ match words to their meanings or find antonyms and synonyms expands a child’s vocabulary!

Then, importantly, encourage your child to apply this in their written work.  I often include a “make it your own” prompt and encourage creative writing.

Another important note:  Don’t kill your child’s own written narrations with grammar corrections! No one enjoys seeing red pen marks all over their work!  Make a side note when you notice repeated, glaring and important grammar mistakes in your child’s written narrations and then find examples in extracts from readers to point out the grammar rule.  in a short copywork exercise, let your child practice this rule and then encourage them to apply it to their written work.  Keep reinforcing the grammar activity until you see that they have understood and can apply it naturally in their writing.

Be creative with language arts.  Use relevant magazine and newspaper articles or comic strips, especially for older children.  (Read my suggestions for a Charlotte Mason approach for Remedial Course For Older Children.)

Once you embrace the nature language learning method, you can apply short, formal English lessons to the same extract for 5 days, focusing on new skills each day as follows:

  • Monday = Copywork  (copy the passage, taking note of new, unknown words, sentence structure and punctuation)
  • Tuesday = Language Arts  (analyzing the grammar elements)
  • Wednesday = Vocabulary Extension and Spelling (learn thematic words, work on spelling rules or spelling lists)
  • Thursday = Creative Writing (apply the concept from the extract or reader in a creative written exercise)
  • Friday = Dictation (The child reads and learns the extract each day and now writes it as a formal dictation without looking at the passage)

These are all about a 10-minute lesson.  Keep your formal English lessons short and sweet!

I trust that this post encourages homeschool parents who feel concerned about their child’s formal language arts.  Relax.  Trust me.  It will work!

In Grace, Nadene




Practical Tip Book of Centuries for mom and kids

Here’s this week’s practical tip ~

Book of Centuries

A Charlotte Mason education includes a Book of Centuries.  Following Ms Mason’s approach, children enter records, illustrate and write brief notes and mark dates of famous people, events, wars, eras, inventions and significant breakthroughs in their Book of Centuries as they study.

For a young child, a visual timeline  chart or line along a wall or around a room is best.  It gives a child a bird’s-eye view of events in time; with Biblical and ancient history starting way back, with modern and current dates stretching out.  My young kids loved pasting the pictures on our timeline that went all around our room!  Finding the right date and placing for the picture on the timeline was an excellent introduction activity to a lesson or theme. enjoy their own book or notebook version.    Older children enjoy adding their own notes and illustrations or clip art.  Allow your children freedom to express their thoughts and details in their own, personal way.  Some kids prefer pasting clip art and drawing pictures, while others like to write lists.  I often provided a detailed timeline for specific themes, like World War ll, for example, which can be folded and pasted onto the relevant BOC page.  Over the years, their books fill up and become a wonderful reflection of the history they have studied.  This activity is an excellent conclusion to a theme or topic.

I wrote a post on how you can make you own very cheap, frugal Book Of Centuries using a store-bought notebook, or convert a spiral bound book into a BOC. This post includes the spacing and page layout suggestions.

I wrote about my joy of using a Book of Century as a mother’s record of work and I still love browsing through my BOC and delight in the scope and richness of the education we have journeyed through these 19+ years.  (In response to @Leanne’s comment about not having kept her own records in her BOC, I wrote, “@Leanne, If this is an idea you enjoy, just go ahead and do it! I “caught up” my BOC in one afternoon a few years ago! I simply took each History Core book we had studied and wrote in all the events, wars and famous people studied. The next day I took my Art Era Timelime and cut it up and pasted all the thumbnail-sized pictures in the main art eras, included all the famous art works and artists, and my BOC was instantly filled with color and info! In fact, if this is something your kids have let slide, it makes a good recap and overview activity which they might also enjoy!)

Here are some links and free Book Of Centuries downloads:

Wishing you every blessing, Nadene






Letter 12 – Casual Classical Music

Here’s the next letter my series ~ “Letter To Mereminding myself, and, hopefully encouraging other new homeschoolers,  with what I wish I had known when I started out on our homeschooling journey ~

Dear Nadene,

Follow Charlotte Mason’s approach and play classic music in your homeschooling.  Just forget about  all the formalities such as reading the biographies, writing notebook pages, and over-analysis of the music.  If you make classic music a formal lesson your children will sigh and shut down.  (Add formal lessons gradually … informally … gently … not every lesson needs to be narrated!)

Simply enjoy it!  Let it waft over you all.  Let the music fill the room.  Quietly let the music evoke a response.  Play it in the background, listen to it while cooking or folding laundry or cleaning house together. Beathoven's Wig

Your young kids will love all the “Classic Kids” CDs and the ridiculous and fun lyrics of  Beethoven’s Wig, so that is a good investment, but you don’t have to buy all the CDs and books.  Gradually add a CD or two to your collection.  Simply stream music.  Download music.  Watch YouTube videos.  There’s plenty of free music and music appreciation lessons.  Join Barb’s Music Appreciation Monday or Patti’s All Things Bright and Beautiful.  They’ve done it all for you — so no excuses!

Add movie soundtracks to your collection.  They are often filled with amazing classical music, including choirs and the opera, like in “Room with a View” and many of Jane Austen’s and Narnia movies.  soundtracks of animated movies

Now and then, share your own “Best of ….” YouTube videos.   We have had the best enjoyment sharing our favourite singers and musicians from our era.  My children were amazed to find that much of the music in animated children’s music (like Shrek) came from original hits of yesteryear.  piano guys

Back in the 80’s the saxophone was the most popular classical instrument.   Right now the Piano Guys (their complete playlist) are a hit, as are the extremely popular 2Cellos.

Importantly, listen to your teen’s music!  Enjoy it with them and don’t judge.  Be interested in their music, artists and current music styles.  Their music is a vital connection to their hearts because music is the montage to their lives.  Their playlists connect to all their experiences and opens you up to their souls.  They have cried to their sad music and danced to the fun stuff!   Dance with them.  Learn hiphop and some current songs and sing it with them.  It is fun and it forms deep connections and lasting memories  .

Without ‘teaching’ the classics, simply expose them to classical music casually.  You are building a rich culture and your kids will remember it and appreciate it for the rest of their lives!

With hindsight blessings,


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Letter 9 – Wait

Here’s the next letter my series ~ “Letter To Mewhere I share the letters I wrote to myself, encouraging myself (and, hopefully other new homeschoolers)  with what I wish I had known when I started out on our homeschooling journey ~

Dear Nadene,

Firstly, you must remember that the curriculum you purchased for each of your children, complete with bell & whistles, is created by developers who estimate the average age and range and scope of the work.  They determine a schedule that will cover the work within a certain time frame. It will not be perfect for all your children, all the time.

Use the schedule as a guideline, not a task master.  Remember this when your “tick-the-box” mentality starts to trip you into rushing, stressing and worrying.  It is perfectly fine to take longer on sections.  It is okay to skip some work/ projects/ narrations/ hands-on activities.  It is altogether right to put away a book that your child just does not like or enjoy.  Wait until a few months and try again.

Wait for your children to show readiness and follow their natural drive to repeat and immerse themselves in something they love and enjoy and want to master. If you push too soon, they will not have that built-in passion and ability to carry out the skill and activity. 

Especially when your child struggles — wait.  Gently encourage them, but if they cannot manage a subject or skill — wait.  Step back a step or two and try again. 

So, if a Maths book causes tears, try another book, or switch over to some mental maths pages, or find a game that they can use instead of pen and paper.  Delay the written maths exercises and focus on the basic maths skills.  Do fun, active drills instead.  Take time off from the book and find the point of mastery and work up from there. 

Remember, you are supposed to tailor-make your child’s learning experience and you know  your child way better than any expert who typed out the schedule!  You can delay the handwriting lessons, wait with written narrations.  Even if you have nothing to show for your school day, and do not seem to make much progress in the schedule, your children are learning.

And this applies to your high schooler as well.  It does not matter that she did not write any tests or exams, and did not complete an “impossible” course one year, your child will master another course the next year.  She will definitely manage to write formal exams in an external exam center at the end of the year. 

Lastly, remember when you were a professional teacher, you encouraged parents to hold a struggling child back a year?  It always worked for the best in the early years.  So, moms, don’t push your young children!  Don’t fret, stress and strain to measure up to the standards laid out.  Follow your child and facilitate their learning needs.  It is right that your one-on-one schooling does not look like the ‘average’.  Yours is a perfect fit! 

With hindsight blessings,


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South African Artists

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JH Pierneef We follow a Charlotte Mason approach where we study and appreciate one artist for a month.  Each week we view one new art work and I encourage detailed observations, discussions, further research, narrations, and supporting art activities for that art work.

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Blessings,  Nadene

Letter 7 – Action!

Here’s the next letter my series ~ “Letter To Mewhere I share the letters I wrote to myself, encouraging myself (and, hopefully other new homeschoolers)  with what I wish I had known when I started out on our homeschooling journey ~

Dear Nadene,

P1080139Starting homeschool with your little kiddies is not going to be school-school-sit-in-desks-and-work-style!  It is a lifestyle of learning … and young kids learn by DOING! Young kids need to move.  Boys, especially, need action, preferably with sound effects (am I right?) to express themselves. 

Forget about formal workbooks and worksheets.  Get active and do stuff together.  There’s the real learning.  Of course, teach some formal learning skills such as Maths, spelling and handwriting, but make it a short, sweet, focussed lesson.  After all these years, I can promise you that short lessons are successful

Encourage wiggling children to use an exercise ball instead of a chair.  Use an elastic thera-band (or some pantyhose) as an active footrest for desk work.  Ensure that your seat-to-desk height is correct for your child. View examples and practical tips here – Sitting affects handwriting.

HomeschoolAnother trick is to alternate. e.g.: listen to a story – then act it out, do a quick handwriting lesson (fine motor skills) and then let the kiddies enjoy a 10-minute session outside on the jungle gym (gross motor skills).  Before a focussed lesson such as maths, play the arrows game.   (This activity promotes spatial awareness and directionality, essential skills for reading, writing and maths.) If your child struggles with a skill, break it down into tiny, manageable lessons and reward your child with some a specified time on a mini trampoline … also excellent for drill lessons.

P1100160Plan narrations where they can physically do stuff.  Have play dough or Lego or coloring-in activities so that your kiddies have busy hands while listening to read alouds.  Let your kiddies act out narrations with finger puppets, with hand puppets, with a prop or dress-up clothes.  Prepare a drama using a narrated script (Mom reads out their narrations and the kids act their parts, sometimes with speaking parts.)  Use Lego to create scenes or build examples from their read alouds.

Cooking and baking is another fun activity.  “Farmer’s Boy” from the Little House series launched some amazing cooking, baking and home-preserving lessons!  Shake cream to butter while listening to the story, knead bread dough and form loaves, fry fritters, roll and bake cookies … the way to a man’s child’s heart is through their stomachs, right?

P1100148All those hands-on activities make homeschool memorable!  Your homeschool graduate can recall those lessons as her best memories!  Look for other fun activities to extend your learning experiences.  Remember the fun your kiddies had treasure hunting and letterboxing?  And use all 5 senses … listen, look, smell, feel and taste.   Join another homeschool family and enjoy activities such a first aid lessons, build a raft, go on a hike, camp out … Get physical with map work! 

Do not turn your homeschool into a stuffy, stiff affair.  Have fun!  Especially with your young children, and you will also look forward to your homeschool days.



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Letter 6 – Husband

Here’s the next letter my series ~ “Letter To Mewhere I share the letters I wrote to myself, encouraging myself (and, hopefully other new homeschoolers)  with what I wish I had known when I started out on our homeschooling journey ~ 20160102_114950Dear Nadene

Homeschooling is a family affair.  You may be a professional, qualified teacher with years of teaching experience, but include your husband in your homeschooling decisions and plans.

Honor him.  Right at the outset, announce him as your school principal and encourage and allow him to have full authority and imput. You need his strong cover. He will balance you.  He will encourage you,  He will maintain your vision.  He will be the strength and wisdom you need in those turbulent years.

Share your homeschool days with him often.  Encourage your children to show him their work, narrate their stories to him, recite their poems and plays. Share your vision and hopes for each child and pray together for your children.

Include him in the positives as well as the negatives.  Don’t only include him as the disciplinarian.  Dad is “the wall”, while mom is “the pillow”, but don’t always make him the “bad” cop.  Hold yourself and your children accountable to him.  Ask your husband to speak to your children regarding their schedules, attitudes, character issues, diligence, and future plans.  And also acknowledge breakthroughs and successes as a family.

Some fathers are excellent tutors in certain subjects.  Some dads are very involved with their kids schooling. Some dads work away from home and moms pretty much carry the entire homeschool portfolio.  Whatever the season or the reason, this is your family’s journey, and dad should be included whenever and however possible.

Plan outings and field trips or group meetings where dads can come along.  Make memories together.  This is not “school ot home”, but a lifestyle of learning. 

Remember that this is just a season in your lives.  When all is said and done, you will always be your husband’s wife and not the teacher. Nadene, you know that sometimes it is easier to perform and measure your success in your children’s progress and happiness, than to be open and available to minister to your husband’s needs.  Don’t neglect him.  Invest in your marriage.  Upgrade from time to time. A happily married wife makes a much more gracious, loving mom.

Blessings from your older, and hopefully much wiser self,


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