Letter 23 – Fears

As I reflect on my 23+ years of homeschooling, I wrote my younger self several letters which I share here, hoping that my insights and advice will also be an encouragement to you in your homeschooling journey. Here’s the next letter in my “Letter To My Younger Self” seriesLetter 23 ~ Fear

Dear younger Nadene,

How often you were afraid in those first years! I can remember feeling that fluttering of butterflies in your stomach as you ordered your first full curriculums, and how anxiously you looked at the jam-packed schedule and wondered how on earth you would do 3 children on 3 different cores.  And you were right.  This strategy was incredibly stressful and you finally learnt to group your children on one core and work with more cohesive planning and greater compassion.

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You were afraid that if there wasn’t work in notebooks as evidence, that maybe your children weren’t really learning.  You did not trust the natural learning process that children have when they are curious will work as academic study.  But you soon realized that narrations really work, that living books teach, that simple natural exposure to art and classical music will deeply impact their minds and hearts.

You were afraid that your children were missing out on having peers and school friends.  But you soon discovered that having just one like-valued family with children the same ages as yours was more than enough.  These relationships grew and their bond was so strong that it remains today, even years after graduation.  And your children amazing friends!  They are kind, compassionate and extremely loyal. And they are definitely not “weird or unsocialized”!  On the contrary, they are adaptable, able to chat with people of all ages, they relate well to authority and they are able to navigate relational conflict and difficulties with a maturity and poise that makes your heart swell with joy.

How fearful and anxious you were in times of trouble or transition.  You felt afraid when your Christian values and the perfection you saw on other homeschool blogs did not match what was real in your own home.  You felt out of your depth when your teenage children challenged you and, in your fear, you tried even harder, often making things worse.  But, the Lord is faithful and He has kept you and provided for and protected your children.  You will rejoice when you see that they each have the most wonderful, deep, personal spiritual walk with the Lord as they grow up.  All your prayers and intercession were never in vain!

You were quite terrified when your children became teenagers that resisted, refused and changed direction.   But you finally relented and released them, and allowed them to follow their choices with all the consequences that would follow, and it worked out fine.

When your high school children refused most of the Charlotte Mason subjects, you felt disqualified and disappointed.  Instead of easily conceding, you cried, prayed and agonized over your failures.  But they wanted another approach and they were willing to find it even if they knew you did not approve.  How true they were to themselves!  And they made their choices work.  Well done kids, for showing mom another way.  It took more than 15 years to realize that you are their facilitator and not their teacher, forcing a method or a system on them.  

When things were not working out as you hoped, fear gripped your stomach and made you quite anxious and nervous.  Fear was always the deeper root to much of your behaviour and response to issues.  So much of your parenting was done out of fear even though you said that parenting is done on your knees in prayer.   

  • If you could start homeschool over again without fear, what would that look like?
  • If fear did not rule your choices, how could you navigate those teen years better?
  • Knowing what you know now, would you be as afraid?

Nadene, you do not have to fear!  Your attentive, consistent parenting style, your conscientious homeschooling and diligence pay off.  Your children will grow up and graduate as well-rounded, intelligent and amazing young adults.  Relax and trust the Lord in and through it all.

With compassionate love and grace from your older self,

Love, Nadene

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Letter 22 Striving

With my youngest child approaching her final year of homeschooling, I find myself once again reflecting on my thoughts, attitudes, ideas and approaches of the past 20+ years of homeschooling, writing letters to my younger self.   I hope that these letters will also be an encouragement to you in your homeschooling journey. So, picking up from where I last left off, here’s the next letter in my “Letter To My Younger Self” series

Letter 22 ~ Striving

Dear younger Nadene,

Striving is defined as “an attempt, to compete, to contend, an endeavour, to exert, to fight, to struggle and toil and try.” 

Who would want any of this in your homeschooling?  Striving is exhausting and a very debilitating approach to homeschooling, parenting and life in general.

When you started your homeschooling, you had an idealistic school-at-home approach and you worked strictly according to the schedule and tried to meet other people’s standards.  This approach put unnecessary pressure on you and you inevitably ended up desperate and stressed.

Your own personal attempts to do-it-all and “get it right” caused you sleepless nights and butterflies in your stomach when things were new, or different, or when things were not meeting your expectations.  Your massive focus and grand efforts may have given you some success, but your striving negatively affected your children.  They picked up your stress like they picked up chickenpox!  This invisible tension oppressed your home and their learning.

You will know when you are striving — it will look like busyness and stress, sound like shouting & yelling.  It will be cajoling, urging, insisting, forcing, punishing, withdrawing, manipulating, dominating … or simply doing it in a life-draining way.  

Let me encourage you to let go of your ideals, lower your expectations and work according to your family’s own rhythm and lifestyle.  Most importantly, let go of the timetable on the schedule and use it as your guideline or even as just a suggestion.  Add more time to your schedule — 6 months more time at least! 

You will never fall behind!  Not ever!  Not even when your kids miss a couple of days every week, or are sick, or when you go travelling around the country for 18 months.  Not even when your highschooler drops subjects or gives up a curriculum halfway through her Grade 10 course.  You will not even fall behind when you start a new family business and your days are interrupted dozens of times.  Relax, darling.  It will all work out in the end.

If you feel helpless, afraid or stressed about a child, or a curriculum, or a disciplinary or character issue, step back and press pause and be curious.  Be compassionate.  Ask yourself and the Lord. “What is the most loving way we can do this?”  and then be still and listen to the still, small voice in your heart.  Follow your heart. Please follow your heart.

Be kind to yourself and extend grace to yourself.  You will figure this out and you will eventually have lovely days of happy homeschooling.  It will turn out fine, trust me.

With gracious, compassionate love from your older self, Love Nadene

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Letter 21 – Time

Letter to myselfBack in 2016, I wrote a series of Letters to “my younger self” reflecting on thoughts, attitudes, ideas and approaches in my 20+ years of homeschooling, which I hope will be an encouragement to you in your homeschooling journey.  So, picking up from where I left off, here’s Letter 21 ~ Time

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Homeschooling allows you to be free to follow the time-frame needed for your family.  Take more time when you feel stressed and frazzled.  Take some time alone to pray and journal.  Write those things down that frustrate and bewilder you.  The Lord is near to all those who call on Him and He has a gentle and very intimate listening ear.

Give yourself time to figure things out. You are not “supposed” to know how-to, what-to, and when-to do everything all the time.  Take a moment and just breathe in belly-deep and slowly exhale and begin to ask the Lord and yourself some good questions. 

  • Ask the Lord to show you what is important right now, in this season.  He is faithful and will always gently remind you that it is always “People before Things“, it is always about relationships and not stuff!  Focus there first. 
  • Ask who needs the most love right now ~ that is your ministry! What does that person need right now to feel most loved and understood? When we relate to that precious person in grace and love, seeing their fears and failures through the Lord’s eyes of compassion, we become His hands, His heart, and His hope.  
  • Ask the Lord what that individual needs to learn and how to teach it … and this is not necessarily education, but rather character and faith, and pray specifically for those areas of the person’s life.  Often the Lord gives me one or two words to focus on such as “Trustworthiness” or “Truth” or “Transparency”.

Each child’s age and stage constantly change, and with this growing and shifting, you need to adapt your approach and expectations.  When a child no longer fits the expectations you have, take a moment to reconsider who they are and what they need now, at this stage of their lives.  Relax and back off if you feel you are pressing them too hard, or remind and be consistent in those areas that need to be established. 

Remember that it is better to stop “school” to work on good habits, the right attitude and godly character than to relent or ignore real issues to focus on school work.  Life is the lesson!  Don’t back off from quietly insisting on a positive response, or kind behaviour towards siblings, or obedience to important instructions.  Time spent here is worth every minute!  It may seem really hard when your days are constantly “interrupted” by behavioural issues. but it is not easier to send them to school for someone professional to ‘sort out’.  This is your child and you are their perfect parent, and this is your responsibility and your privilege. 

Take time to figure out how.  Ask for help if you need it.  Work as a team with your hubby.  He has a very different approach and if your work together in unity, you will accomplish much!  You are created for dependence and don’t need to do this alone.  Trust the Lord.  He has purposed you for this ministry and He will provide for everything that is needed to accomplish it.

You can do this!

With gracious love, Nadene

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Letter 20 – Trust God

Letter to myselfEncouragement for new homeschoolers ~ reflecting on thoughts, attitudes, ideas and approaches I have considered as I have journeyed in my 19+ years of homeschooling …  here’s my last letter in this series.

Dear Nadene,

Start with prayer and commit your family and your lives to your homeschooling journey.  Commit your values, choices and decisions to the Lord.  Ask Him for your family’s homeschool vision.  He is faithful to show you what is important and essential.  When you have His “yes” to your life, it is easier to follow Him and not be swayed and dismayed by what others are doing.P1180270

Trust the Lord to grow you as your children’s facilitator and guide rather than the teacher.  Allow Him to unravel all your ideals and pre-conceived notions, and mould you into the mom, mentor and disciple-er you need to be for each child.  Forget your about your teacher’s diploma and degree and follow His lead as you learn to journey in your homeschooling.

You can trust Him to lead your curriculum choices, the children’s grouping and the pace for each child.  You can trust Him to help you when a child struggles or is “stuck”.  You can trust Him when your teens reject or refuse to follow your guidelines and approach.  You can trust Him when your children are lonely, afraid or depressed.  You can trust Him when you are confused, uncertain or burnt out.

You can trust Him to lead you to the right people, websites, blogs and pages for the encouragement, guidance and free downloads you need. (Thank the Lord for others who struggle along the same journey and share their insights with compassion!)

You can trust Him to lead your homeschool graduate in their adult life.  How much greater are their prayer needs now than those you prayed when they were junior primary kiddies, but you have found God to be faithful in all those answered prayers, so you can boldly trust Him now! 

He is your comforter, your healer, your guide.  The Lord will never forsake you and will never leave you.  His love and compassion are new every day!  You can trust Him to be there for each moment of each day for everyone.

Become child-like and audacious in your confident expectations of the Lord’s faithfulness and TRUST HIM!

With hindsight blessings,

Nadene

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Letter 19 – Have Fun!

Letter to myselfEncouragement for new homeschoolers ~ reflecting on thoughts, attitudes, ideas and approaches I have considered as I have journeyed in my 19+ years of homeschooling …

Dear Nadene,

Have fun!  Relax!  Don’t take your homeschooling so seriously! 

Really, it is only the final 3 years that require an earnest, academic commitment to prepare for those final exams.  It doesn’t take 12 years of serious book work, workbooks and study to graduate! 

So breathe.  Let go.  Relax.  Slow down.

You will prove over and over that it is best to stretch out a year plan to 18 months and MAKE time and CREATE margins of time for fun!

Plan fun for your kids!  Do messy stuff, bake and make stuff.  Dress up and act things out.  P1150685Plan outings, meet others at a park and do fun activities with others.  Go on nature walks and sniff flowers, catch butterflies and climb trees.  Follow your child’s spark of interest and enthusiasm and flame that flame. 

Don’t squash your child’s natural, built-in love to learn with extensive seat work, long lessons, and dull, difficult tasks.  Start your day with something sweet ~ a circle time of songs, Bible story and prayer.  Then go on to short, sweet 3R’s.  Add a few physical activities like skipping, bouncing, clapping songs, or give a few minutes outside break before sitting together, all cosy and relaxed, to read aloud.  Then — FREE TIME!

Kids need time to be free, to create, to explore and to discover.  Encourage outside play wherever possible.  Provide new stimuli such as a ball, bubbles, sandbox toys, water games, dress-up clothes or some rope. 

Plan fun for yourself!   You need the grace of  “Mother Culture” activities.  You need to enjoy the homeschooling journey with your family.   Remember, homeschooling is first about relationships and not information.  So go ahead and join your children!  Relax with them.  Draw and sketch and paint together.  Sing, walk and talk together without it being a lesson or a learning experience.  (Your kids HATE your “mom-the-teacher voice”!)  Leave your desk, your un-filled tick-the-box schedules and have fun.

With hindsight blessings,

Nadene

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Letter 18 – Memories

Letter to myselfEncouragement for new homeschoolers ~ reflecting on thoughts, attitudes, ideas and approaches I have considered as I have journeyed in my 19+ years of homeschooling …

Dear Nadene,

Make memories!  Homeschooling is a rich, rewarding journey which your family will remember forever.  P1080139

Make memories with hands-on activities.  When I asked my homeschool graduate what she remembered the most fondly of her homeschool days, she recalled the dressing up, acting out, cooking and baking, creating projects and building models.  

Famous artworks and classical music selections bring back wonderful memories.  Just remember to approach these lessons informally and casually.  

Build-in margins of extra time in your schedule to take time for tangents.  These are often the most rewarding moments in the school schedule … the unscheduled scenic stop along the way.  Go on field trips and outings.  Stretch out your schedule and extend your scheduled 1 year over 18 months.  This gentle pace will be so nurturing and enriching.

Take photos, encourage your children to illustrate and write journals and record the “best of …” at the end of each year. Your kids will love to re-read their report of their favourite books, themes and activities when they are older and it will seem all the more sweeter then.

With hindsight blessings,

Nadene

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Letter 17 – Perfectionism

Letter to myselfEncouragement for new homeschoolers ~ reflecting on thoughts, attitudes, ideas and approaches I have considered as I have journeyed in my 19+ years of homeschooling …

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Dear Nadene,

Homeschooling is a journey of self-discovery and growth. It is about growing in character.    It is NOT about a systematic dispensation of information, formal lessons, tests and results with a perfectly predictable outcome.   No system is perfect.  No curriculum is perfect.  No one is perfect.   So you are going to trip up over faults and failures …. and you will have to deal with your fears. 

Let go of perfection.  Perfectionism is a symptom of fear.  It is an attempt to control and be in control.  Perfectionism is said to be self-abuse!

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Perfectionism kills! 

Instead, focus on being faithful with what you have and to do your very best.   Encourage your children to be faithful and consistent.  Encourage them to be proud of their work and to take pride in their efforts.   As a parent, allow them to fail, to change their minds, to figure things out.  Nothing stifles uniqueness and creativity more than fear.  

Have realistic expectations.  Life is messy and chaotic.  Aim to maintain a simple routine and a consistent approach.  Build in “margins” around your schedule for the unexpected and spontaneous.  Perfectionism is highly overrated and completely unrealistic.

Be kind to yourself.   Have grace towards yourself and others.  Forgive yourself for failing, for making mistakes, for being human.   Learn to laugh at yourself.  Train yourself to breathe and let unmet expectations go … Don’t major on the minors.  Don’t make mountains out of molehills. 

Most of your concerns and stresses are about ideals and expectations.  Remember the motto: “People before things.”  Focus on relationships. 

Pray and ask the Lord what is important.  Ask Him to show you what is needful, helpful and useful.   Adopt an attitude of grace.  Live out hope in your thinking, speaking and loving of yourself and others.  See yourself and others through His eyes. 

Be compassionate.  Be patient … you are a work in progress …

With hindsight blessings,

Nadene

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Letter 16 – Don’t Kill It!

Letter to myselfEncouragement for new homeschoolers ~ reflecting on thoughts, attitudes, ideas and approaches I have considered as I have journeyed in my 19+ years of homeschooling …

Dear Nadene,

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Don’t jump in and try to do the whole schedule!  Your kids will freak out and you will quickly burn out.  It is fine to start slow, progress gradually, focus on one new skill or subject each week. When starting homeschooling, take at least 3 months to build up your daily schedule.  It is fine to leave some subjects out completely and then gradually integrate them into the schedule later.   Looking back, nothing was really learnt in the stress of discovering how what and when to “do absolutely everything” on the schedule!

It is essential that you slow down!  Spread out a 12-month schedule over 18 months to 2 years!  It will be the best approach for all the middle school years, allowing you and your kids time to enjoy all the scenic routes and ‘rabbit trails’  along the way.  Most importantly, your kids will love the relaxed schedule and do lots of hands-on activities that make homeschool such fun!

Don’t “do school” at home!  The lovely little timetable, the neat school books, the whiteboard and desk for each child is absolutely fine, but you can accomplish so much informally, organically and uniquely. Use these physical aspects as a guideline or base, but allow for flexibility and individuality.

Find your family’s rhythm and flow.  Adjust your approach to suit each child’s learning style, each subject’s requirements, and your personal teaching/ facilitating style.  Once again, remember you are tailor-making your child’s learning experience.  You are not reproducing “the system for the masses” at home!

Don’t make everything a lesson. Oh boy, Nadene, hear me here … your kids shut down when you start explaining e.v.e.r.y. t.h.i.n.g!  They hear that “mom-the-teacher-voice” and groan. You can ask a few questions, answer their questions, but don’t teach all the time. 

Remember this when reading aloud, don’t stop to explain this or that, ask pesky questions and interrupt the natural learning experience.   Listen to Charlotte Mason’s advice and “keep out of the way” and allow the child to “engage with the author” and the concepts on their own.

Let nature study just be a nature ‘experience‘.  Your teens will refuse to “do nature study” because your earlier nature study lessons were too formal and regimented. 

Likewise, with Fine Arts, fill the room with classical music and just shut up and encourage everyone to simply enjoy the music.  Forget about reading the composer biographies, discussing musical technical terms and just let the music flow.   Simply enjoy the time and musical experience together. 

Relax.  Breathe.  Your children WILL LEARN!   You need to trust this natural ability.  Foster and encourage their delight to learn.  facilitate their needs, fertilize their minds and hearts with excellent literature and great books.  Expose them to great ideas and discoveries, fine arts and nature.  Encourage them to connect new ideas to what they already know.

They will not fall through the gaps.  They will catch up.  They will become great self-learners.  They will grow up balanced and sound.  They will be amazing!

Above all, trust the Lord and teach from a place of faith and rest.  Keep your heart trusting and surrendered.  This will be the Lord’s greatest blessing to you in your homeschooling journey.

With hindsight blessings,

Nadene

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Letter 15 – On Track

Letter to myselfI love to encourage new homeschoolers and today I continue the next in a series of letters I have written to myself, reflecting over the 19+ years of homeschooling… thoughts, attitudes, ideas and approaches that have changed and grown as I have travelled on this journey …

Dear Nadene,

Homeschool is about life and not the tick-the-box-schedule.  Your smooth homeschool days are a blessing, but life happens and all your plans can fall apart very quickly!

How do you work with constant interruptions?  What do you do when there is a crisis?  What happens when a child or mom is sick?  How do you cope with the turmoil of a move?   

Remember this golden rule ~ “People before things“.

Firstly, have realistic expectations.  Young toddlers are disruptive.  They move quickly from one thing to the next and create chaos with surprising ease.  If you are homeschooling with a toddler, expect disruptions and interruptions and plan accordingly.

Secondly, create some ground rules regarding your schooling time.  Working in a family business will require a balancing act.  Answering telephones and responding to emails is a huge intrusion.  Get up early and tackle the inbox before the school day starts.  Answer text messages before school, and then put the cellphone on silent and set the landline to the answering machine.  When working from home,  discuss the times you are available and do most office work before and in the afternoons after school.  Politely let your family and friends know that you are working in the mornings and cannot “do tea” or chit-chat until after lunch. 

Habit training is vital to smooth flowing homeschool days.  Maintain a simple schedule, a predictable routine and a consistent approach. Gentle nighttime reminders help set up the day ahead. 

Find your family’s rhythm.  We tried for years to start at 8am but failed.  Our busy mornings on the farm, as well as each child’s natural waking cycle,  means that we normally start at after 9:30ish.  I stressed about starting times for ages.  I have realized that young kids and toddlers are revving to go by 7am, while high schoolers work better later in the day and finish their work more independently.  Find what works for your family in this season and your kid’s age and stage.

Keep moving forward … just put one step in front of the next.  Don’t give up.  It is far harder to start from scratch than to keep doing a little every day.  By-and-by you can catch up and include more subjects and activities.

So, practically, how to keep on track?

  • Begin your homeschooling with as many kids on the same core as possible.  Having a separate core for each child is an enormous task and you will quickly feel overwhelmed and fall behind.  You will dread each day and easily burn out. 
  • Find simple, short, sweet lessons for the 3R’s for each child, but select one core for the History/ Social Study read alouds.
  • Start your day together with circle time and then guide the older kids to start some independent work while you focus on setting up an activity with your toddler.
  • Break for young kids with physical activities such as action songs, quick bean bag games, jump on the mini-trampoline, skip, enjoy a healthy snack. 
  • When you have fallen off the tracks, and when all else fails, read aloud to your kids.
  • Don’t worry about delays, downtime and long interruptions unless your high schooler is writing their final exams.  When it comes to all young children, remember that THEY DON’T FALL BEHIND!  It is amazing, and I can’t quite explain it, but they carry on growing and learning. 
  • Read how I catch up ~ SPOT, SKIP or SPEED

Be encouraged … the Lord meets you with grace and mercy fresh each morning.  He is hope.  He will gently guide moms with their young.  He is never in a crisis, never too early or too late and will provide all the grace, strength and wisdom you need to stay on track.

With hindsight blessings,

Nadene

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Letter 14 – Send Homeschooler To School?

Letter to myselfAfter over 19 years of homeschooling, I have reflected on a few things … and this is what I would write to the new homeschooling me.  Here’s the next letter my series  ~

Dear Nadene,

While you may begin with every intention of homeschooling to the end, you will often think about sending your homeschoolers to school instead! Although others may think that you had it all figured out …  you will “get real” and confess that you often wanted to give up.

When you start homeschooling, your eldest child will have enjoyed 3 happy years in a lovely, private, Christian primary school, and now is suddenly at home with you and her sisters trying to figure out the new approach.  She is strong-willed with you but compliant with others, and her sulks, moods, and bad attitude, as well as your stress, fear and anxiety,  make the whole thing difficult … impossible … just “wrong”. 

It seems better to send her back to school instead of facing daily battles of will and endless discipline issues.   And your high expectations, naive ideals and narrow, purist approach make things very unpleasant.  But let me assure you that these rough beginnings are normal when you take a child out of school and start homeschooling.  They need a period of “de-schooling” … about 1 month for every year of school  … and you need to take it really slowly, and gradually ease her into your full homeschool curriculum.

Thinking about sending your homeschooled child to school will be a regular pit-stop for each child during their turbulent teen years when your teens need more interaction than you can readily give them because you live so far away from town.  You will not feel guilty for considering this because you can blame several things for this shift ~ geography and sociology. 

You think that it will help them to go to boarding school, as so many farmers in your district do, rather than homeschool through these tough years.  As you consider this option, your heart will ache at the idea of missing being with them and you will fear the peer influences and peer pressure.  In end, you and your hubby will calculate that you will not be able to afford the 4 trips per week to fetch and take her to school so far away, as well as paying for the double costs of school and boarding fees.  Homeschooling is cheaper by far, but it is also much richer in the subjects, approach and methods used than those in school. 

More importantly, your homeschooling is not so much about the content as it is about developing character.  These are the vital years of discipleship, relationship and mentorship.  Homeschooling allows you the full liberty to focus on this.

Homeschooling teens require more trips for social and entrepreneur opportunities.   Pray to find like-valued families for your teens to visit and stay over during school breaks.  These visits will breathe fresh life in your teen’s life and they will come home more positive and creative.

Your youngest child is a very social little person who may seem terribly lonely at home when her older sisters are busy and away.  You may consider sending her to boarding school, but she is simply unhappy at the thought of living far from home, and she will rather find things to do at home than “be sent away”. 

Sending any child to school at any point is not “wrong” unless it is due to fear and failure.  Parenting is ‘infected’ with guilt, so it is very important that this choice is made for the right reasons … for growth and for opportunities.  Countless homeschooled children have transitioned back into school.  Most have done so because the child (often a teen) requested it and it has been good

We have kept this option open for our children.  And as I have often declared, our homeschooling is “not cast in stone“.

With hindsight blessings,

Nadene

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