Oils of Life

My daughter and I read Beautiful Girlhood

by M. Hale and revised by Karen Andreola

for our “mother-daughter” time together every night.

(You can read my book review here.)

I particularly loved Chapter 17

where she described our lives as a great engine

with fire in the box and steam in the boiler,

but unless it is well-oiled,

it will not make good progress.

Without oil, there will be creaking parts, and friction

and the whole machine will drag.

” Unoiled lives are just the same.  They run hard, with much complaining.  You  can tell them but their lamentations and murmurings, and by the friction with which they do anything.”

So, what oils are recommended?

Annointing Oils

Image by alforque via Flickr

The Oil of Kindness

  • The oil of kindness must go down into the heart and work its way out in words and actions.
  • Kindness of heart loves and accepts others with all their weaknesses and failings.
  • We must hold only kind thoughts about others.  Any unkind thought reminds us that we need to forgive, to find God’s compassion for the person who offended or hurt us.
  • The oil of kindness makes us forgiving and helps us treat others well.
  • This oil will be a blessing to everyone in the home or workplace.
  • Galatians 5: 22 says, “The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.”

The Oil of Politeness

  • Alone politeness does not do thorough work, but combined with the oil kindness, will show genuine character.
  • This oil will produce simple phrases such as,

“Thank you,” and “If you please,” I beg your pardon,” and “Please excuse me,” making good lubricants for courtesies with others.

  • Our children need to practice social graces such as rising and giving their seats to older people,
  • being respectful to the aged or infirm,
  • remaining quiet when adults are talking,
  • waiting patiently,
  • and offering others first.
  • Such polite practises make life pleasant for others.
  • Politeness is the measure of training. Even young children must practise being polite.

The Oil of Patience

  • Anyone not well-oiled with patience is liable to become cross, irritable and sharp-spoken.
  • The lack of this oil will be felt by all.
  • An impatient expression, nasty tone of the voice, ugly manner of speaking will all indicate a need for this oil.  Without patience we jar others.  We clang like noisy gongs.  We jerk and jolt relationships without the lubrication of patience.
  • Patience will add to kindness and provide a life full of pleasantness.
  • Patience must be practised.
  • Although it is a fruit of the Holy Spirit, it is also a choice.  We choose to be patient instead of demanding and insisting on our own way.

The Oil of Thoughtfulness and The Oil of Consideration

  • Both these oils work closely together to prevent families and social groups becoming rusty.
  • Members of family live so closely together that these oils are vital.
  • Children must practise acts of thoughtfulness.  Parents should encourage these qualities and give their children the opportunity to demonstrate thoughtfulness. Start each week with reminders and encourage random acts of thoughtfulness and kindness.  Eventually this can become a family habit.
  • Perhaps this oil is best developed while giving gifts of service, gifts of cards, words of exhortation, helping with practical little acts for others; love in practical demonstration.
  • Do I rub others the wrong way?  Then I need a few drops of thoughtfulness.
  • Am I rough?   Do I wear others down?  The oil of consideration stops such friction.  If others need this oil, my gifts of thoughtfulness may spread out and ease their rough and weary natures.
  • The parable of the Good Samaritan demonstrates how kindness, mercy and thoughtfulness are practical acts.  The Good Samaritan poured oil on the wounds, bandaged the man, took him to an inn and paid for extra care.

Where do I find these oils?


I need to come to the Throne of God daily for fresh supplies of the oils of the Holy Spirit.

I must confess my trespasses; forgive others their offenses.

I must seek Him for His mercy and grace.

His very presence pours precious and gentle oils into my life;

fills my life with perfect,

sweet aromas,

trickles smooth oils

of patience,



and love.

I can then,

in turn,

pour out



and holy acts of love



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What little Girls and Little Boys Should Be Taught

Lorraine Curry, author of Easy Homeschooling Curriculum,  Easy Homeschooling Techniques and Easy Homeschooling Companion lists skills girls and boys should be taught in a sampler featured on homeschoolfreebie.com.Amazon.com: Easy Homeschooling Curriculum eBook: Lorraine Curry ...

Here are some of these skills ~

What a Little Girl Should Be Taught

• To cook plain wholesome food
• To make her own clothes
• To be neat and orderly
• To care for her own room
• To learn well the art of housekeeping
• To care for her person
• To exercise a quiet reserve in the presence of boys and men
• That all cheap talk is unbecoming
• That loose jokes about “beaux” and “lovers” are improper
• That modesty is a priceless treasure, and will prove her surest
• That her brothers are better escorts than most other young men
• That her mother is her best companion and counselor
• That her dress should be plain and not the chief subject of her
thoughts or conversation
• That she should wear only such styles of clothing as will cover
her person modestly
• That it is better to be useful than ornamental
• That there will be time enough to learn fancy work after she has
learned to darn stockings
• That the old rule, “A place for everything and everything in its
place,” is a good one
• That she should dress for health and comfort as well as for appearance
Home and Health © 1907, Pacific Press Publishing

What a Little Boy Should Be Taught

• To be strong and brave—a little man
• To shun evil companions
• To respect gray hairs
• To be gentle
• To be courteous
• To be prompt
• To be industrious
• To be truthful
• To be honest
• To prefer the companionship of his sisters over other girls
• To honor his father and mother
• To be temperate
• To discard profanity
• To be thoughtful and attentive
• To keep himself pure
• To be his sister’s protector
• To refuse to listen to vulgar jokes or stories
• To use common tools skillfully
• To care for his own room
• To do all kinds of housework
• To earn money and to take care of it
• To be neat and orderly in his habits and appearance
• To be self-reliant
• To be his father’s partner
Home and Health © 1907, Pacific Press Publishing

Lorraine Curry’s list is really inspiring.  Her ideas, skills and principles resonated with my own parenting and homeschooling convictions. After reading these lists, I reaffirmed my goals and values, re-committed my heart and resolved to tackle some issues.  I added some of these skills to our goals for the year and determined to prayerfully press on and up.

What would you add to this list?

Blessings, Nadene

Beautiful Girlhood Ideals

I read Beautiful Girlhood by Karen Andreola to my pre-teen daughter every night.  (Read my review of this wonderful book in my Book List Pages.)

We are discussing the chapter on Ideals and I was touched and challenged by the picture of this “beautiful woman” described here.

During my quiet time I drew this picture for the girls ~

In this modern age there are sadly very few virtuous role models for our daughters, (especially not among the youth!)

As I read the qualities of these “ideals”, I realized that we need contemporary Christian women who are an inspiration and an ideal for young women.

I am grateful for those beautiful Christian women who stand apart for the Lord and by their quiet, unobtrusive humility and grace, and call us to a Godly standard.

I have prayerfully sought the Lord for His grace and strength to upgrade my life before my young daughters.

I want to be their inspiration and their role model.

You may download this picture to encourage others ~ Beautiful Ideals


Put on the full armor

Our spiritual position is

fully dressed

and equipped with the whole armor of God

and to

take our stand …

After reading Ephesians 6:10 I wanted to encourage my daughters to be fully clothed …

and I drew this Medieval Era inspired picture …

How often are we undressed and ill-prepared to face the battles?

We are all called to be fully clothed and ready.

This is not a fight for the soldiers, for men, for the strong and ready…

We are all facing flaming arrows, deceptions, lies, powers and principalities that seek to weaken and over-throw us!

We need to be constanly protected,





“having done all,

to stand!”

You are welcome to download this picture to encourage others ~ Full armor of God

What I admire most in homeschool families

Over the years of homeschooling,

we have met many wonderful Christian homeschooling families and

these are the qualities that inspire me,

that confirm our own deep convictions,

that affirm our choices,

that strengthen our vision,

that uphold our decision that homeschooling is what the Lord wants for us as a family …

I jotted these ideas down without rank or importance …

… just as they came to mind …

… each idea could be a post in its own right (maybe I should write a series?) …

… ideas that are ideals … which form the basis of an ongoing vision in our home …

… and, no,

this is not all happening in our family …

… yet …

  1. Family unity – time praying, worshiping and learning together, reading, working, relaxing together
  2. Christian character – children who know the Word and have devotions as a daily lifestyle, who express the love of God to the lost
  3. Sing hymns, spiritual songs and psalms – children who love to sing at home
  4. Many play musical instruments
  5. Ministry and spiritual gifting – expressed in local fellowships and churches
  6. Common vision – families often can describe their vision and purpose
  7. Good habits – trained consistently and diligently
  8. Polite – trained to speak and keep quiet when appropriate
  9. Respectful – addressing others with dignity and self-respect
  10. Submissive – children who repent and apologize when disciplined
  11. Work at maintaining and growing relationships – no getting away with poor relationships – it has to work here at home
  12. Work from home – apprenticeship with parents, mentors disciplining their adolescents into occupations at home
  13. Entrepeneur skills developed – from young children can make and sell products, develop creative/ artistic and practical skills, learn to work for money/ trade
  14. Homesteading and home-making skills, capable and responsible workers, young women who are growing as keepers of home and hearth
  15. Young men with vision and purpose – growing up to take responsiblity and accountability in the home, as heads of families
  16. Boys valued for their skills – in DIY, repairs, inventions
  17. Adolescents growing up with parents as role models and not being impressed with peers/ the teen scene
  18. Simplicity – often financially ‘poor’ families have a wealthy lifestyle, yet they are not materialistic
  19. Sibling affection – older children playing with younger siblings, assisting in them with chores and dressing or bathing etc.
  20. Grace towards others – speaking respectfully, forgiving each other, apologizing quickly
  21. Compassion for  others – especially for people who are weaker, physically challenged, handicapped, the elderly
  22. Families that enjoy 3 generations – often including grandparents and family members in homeschooling moments
  23. Sympathy and empathy for each other – families that show feelings for the other person
  24. Affection – hugs, kisses, family endearments, giving love in all the various love languages (gifts of service/ time/ physical affection/ words of affirmation/ love gifts)
  25. Good general knowledge – have wide and diverse interests
  26. Wide range of interests – enjoying diverse subjects and topics of interest
  27. Involved in hobbies – creative, inventive, passionate hobbyists
  28. Enjoyment of classics in music, stories, films
  29. Love books and reading – often found cuddled together listening to or reading books
  30. Excellent vocabulary – from young, listening to excellent literature generates amazing vocabulary
  31. Well-spoken and articulate children – who express themselves with clarity and confidence
  32. Own opinions – well-thought out ideas, perceptions and convictions gathered through extensive reading, listening and discussions with adults and siblings
  33. Individuals – children that dress differently and act according to their own convictions
  34. Conservative – families that respect God’s authority and the authorities He mandates on earth
  35. Modest – young women who dress demurely, feminine, without sexual attraction
  36. Chaste – modest in dress, conduct, and behaviour
  37. Not dating – families that protect their young adults from heartbreak and superficial soul-ties
  38. Appropriate relationships with opposite sexes, behaving with maturity and sensitivity in dress, language and behaviour
  39. Children that play creative innocent games
  40. Children who play games inspired by classic literature
  41. Children who can play with NOTHING – inventors and creators with words, ideas, imagination
  42. Lovers of nature – inquisitive, making detailed observations, interested, passionate about life around them
  43. Young conservationists – record, petition and persuade others to care for the environment
  44. Fun times – play family games
  45. Celebrate family occasions – festive times, family traditions
  46. Enjoy picnics – simple outdoor meals,
  47. Special meals – birthdays, graduations, celebrations where everyone contributes to the evening meal
  48. Make moments matter – notice and celebrate every day as a gift, every achievement as a joy
  49. Hospitable – serving and enjoying visitors
  50. Sharing the learning journey with public schooled friends – who love the freedom and fulfilling aspects of homeschool
  51. Adventures and the unusual spontaneous intruding and yet complementing the days
  52. Travelling and learning –  everywhere, everyone and everything is part of the curriculum
  53. … more coming …

Every time I come back to this draft, I add some more values and ideas to this growing list.  If I wait till I think of everything, I will never publish this post!

So, I acknowledge this list is a work in progress … in writing and in applying …

…  we are focusing on some of these today, and other values will need periodic review …

What can you add to this list?

  • Good habits – trained consistently and diligently
  • Polite – trained to speak and keep quiet when appropriate
  • Respectful – addressing others with dignity and self-respect
  • Submissive – children who repent and appologize when disciplined

3D Model of Seurat’s “Bathers at Asnieres”

We really enjoyed Seurat’s first masterpiece “Bathers at Asnieres”.

Bathers at Asnieres

Following Charlotte Mason’s approach to art appreciation the girls quietly studied a print of this work and then orally narrated what they remembered in the picture.  I read a short biography and they wrote their biography on our Famous Impressionist Biography notebooking pages.

In our last Seurat study, we found real life photos depicting his “Sunday Afternoon on the Ile de la Grande Jatte” and because his composition in “Bathers” is so formal and still, we decided to make a 3D model of this painting.

We only used what we had.  We looked at the size of objects, proportion and the layout. (A quick revision lesson about the laws of perspective!)

Setting up the river, the bank, bridge and backdrop

With a little prestick, some cardboard, Lego pieces,

Lego boats and people for in the distance

a few home-made rag dolls (that the girls play with instead of Barbie’s), some pins and a lot of fiddling

Rag doll model being positioned

and this was our result!

Our 3D model of Bathers at Asnieres

It took a lot longer than we expected.  It also required much less space because it all has to fit in the camera frame.  We were all really pleased with our ‘real life’ Seurat-inspired masterpiece.

Happy with the results!

I also prepared 6 pages of outline drawings of this painting which you are welcome to download ~ Outline Bathers at Asnieres

Outline drawing of "Bathers"

Here’s some ideas of what I may do …

  • Perhaps we’ll use it to paint and use ear buds to dab paint in pointillism style …
  • Maybe we’ll colour it in and cut it up and create our own puzzle (page 2) …

Puzzle - colour the picture and cut on dotted lines

  • Or we could divide it into quarters and enlarge each to make a large mural (page 3,4,5,6) …

1st quarter

2nd quarter

3rd quarter

4th quarter

  • Perhaps we could create a collage and paste coloured paper and material on the shapes …

What other ideas do you have?

New Paper Dolls ~ Fashions through the Past Eras

A few weeks ago the girls created some paper dolls with clothes.  As their creativity flowed, we decided to make clothes from different eras.

Based on fashions seen in classic movies like Jane Austen’s Sense and Sensibility and Pride and Prejudice they created the fashions used in the 1800’s.  They loved Little Women and used those dress styles from 1865. My Fair Lady inspired clothes from the Edwardian eras of 1900’s.  The classic movie of Romeo and Juliet gave inspiration to the fashions of the Medieval era. Amadeus inspired the French fashions.  One of the girls loved Hair Spray of the 1960’s and made a page of these fashions!

Here is the 10 page pdf. download ~Paper Dolls & clothes.  As you will have seen in the earlier paper doll post, the girls colour in, then cut out the clothes and accessories before we laminate the pieces.  They use prestick to paste each article on the dolls.  (You may want to add shoulder tabs as the vintage paper dolls have instead.)

Paper Dolls Rachel & Rebecca

Romeo & Juliet 1500's

Romeo & Juliet

Jane Austen 1800's

Jane Austen 1800's

Marie Antoinette French 1789

Edwardian 1900's

Little Women 1865

'Little Women' 1865

1960's Hair Spray

Of course we intend to cover more eras and styles …  I have Ancient Egypt, Rome, Vikings and the Elizabethan eras in mind. And of course the modern era needs a page or two … And then I could think of different clothes from countries around the world … plus we will eventually need to include some men …  Maybe I should plan 1 new download per month?

Van Gogh “Starry Night” ~ Art Appreciation

We enjoyed another delightful Van Gogh Art Appreciation activity which is suitable for young children and middle schoolers!

Starry Night

I saved the image and used it as a screen saver on our computer.  This is a good way to see the image often during the week.  Also, we could zoom in and really look at his brushstrokes, colours and details full-sized.

Next I traced the Van Gogh Starry Night outline – click the link for your free pdf download.  (Read about how I trace outlines of famous art works here.)   

I used the outline to save the girls time copying the drawing or using a grid, because there is so much detail in the picture and I wanted to spend the lesson time coloring and painting instead.

We used oil pastels.  First the girls coloured only the white and yellow areas on the white outline page with oil pastels.  This was not easy because you can’t see white on white!  And it had to be coloured in little strokes like Van Gogh’s.

Finding and filling all the white and yellow areas

Then we washed the page with black water-colour.  This was to have a dark background between the little strokes and to give a night-time feel to the picture.  The white and yellow moon, stars and windows really stood out!

Washing the page with black water-colour

Now the girls started to fill in areas.  They filled in the rest of the picture with all the blues, greens and other colors, using several different types of oil pastels; some thick and greasy, others with many shades of colours.  We all pressed hard to make thick, short stokes on the paper.  They sat at the computer, zoomed in and really looked to see what colours Van Gogh used.  This took some time, but already they were happy with their art as it began to look more and more like the masterpiece!

The dark greens, blacks and greys of the Cyprus tree

Swirling blues, whites and greys of the sky

All done, in just an hour or so!  They really appreciated how long Van Gogh must have worked on this masterpiece, how many colours he dabbed on the canvas and how these colours created movement and mood.  They loved this lesson!

Van Gogh’s Starry Night by Miss K, 10 years old

Van Gogh’s Starry Night by Miss L 7 years old

Here are some links I used to prepare this lesson:

Pop over to my Art Page for all the other art appreciation lessons.

Having fun with maps!

Hands-on makes learning such fun!

Finding the right directions on a treasure map

We are really enjoying  K-2 Maps Rev 1 I downloaded this pdf. from Intellego Unit Studies and K-2 Maps Rev 1 has plenty of online links, videos, as well as worksheets to print out and suggestions for a variety of hands-on activities for each concept.

Last week the girls had to make an aged treasure map.  They hid a little “treasure” somewhere in the house and had to mark clues, landmarks and number of steps and directions to find each other’s treasure.  It was a great learning experience!

Today we made maps, to scale, of their bedrooms.  My 10-year-old pretended she was an interior decorator and was so professional!  We are building some useful skills for possible careers ~ isn’t that wonderful?

Paper Dolls ~ something spontaneously creative!

Today my girls made these gorgeous paper dolls.

Doll with top and shorts

Cutting out paper doll

Doll with bits and bobs in an envelope and prestick

Paper doll, clothes and accessories on 1 page

After all the drawing, colouring and cutting we decided to laminate the lot.  Each doll with all her hairstyles, outfits and accessories fit on one page which my girls have graciously agreed to share here ~ PaperDolls.

"Theresa" and her things

"Emily" and her things

Once the girls cut each piece out, they stick the pieces on the doll with prestick. (I just love the laminater – it really makes things last so much longer and prevents tearing when they remove articles or accessories.) Miss K. made an envelope to store all the bits and bobs in.