Back in 2016, I wrote a series of Letters to “my younger self” reflecting on thoughts, attitudes, ideas and approaches in my 20+ years of homeschooling, which I hope will be an encouragement to you in your homeschooling journey. So, picking up from where I left off, here’s Letter 21 ~ Time
Dear younger Nadene,
Homeschooling allows you to be free to follow the time-frame needed for your family. Take more time when you feel stressed and frazzled. Take some time alone to pray and journal. Write those things down that frustrate and bewilder you. The Lord is near to all those who call on Him and He has a gentle and very intimate listening ear.
Give yourself time to figure things out. You are not “supposed” to know how-to, what-to, and when-to do everything all the time. Take a moment and just breathe in belly deep and slowly exhale and begin to ask the Lord and yourself some good questions.
- Ask the Lord to show you what is important right now, in this season. He is faithful and will always gently remind you that it is always “People before Things“, it is always about relationships and not stuff! Focus there first.
- Ask who needs the most love right now ~ that is your ministry! What does that person need right now to feel most loved and understood? When we relate to that precious person in grace and love, seeing their fears and failures through the Lord’s eyes of compassion, we become His hands, His heart, and His hope.
- Ask the Lord what that individual needs to learn and how to teach it … and this is not necessarily education, but rather character and faith, and pray specifically for those areas of the person’s life. Often the Lord gives me one or two words to focus on such as “Trustworthiness” or “Truth” or “Transparency”.
Each child’s age and stage constantly changes, and with this growing and shifting, you need to adapt your approach and expectations. When a child no longer fits the expectations you have, take a moment to reconsider who they are and what they need now, at this stage of their lives. Relax and back off if you feel you are pressing them too hard, or remind and be consistent in those areas that need to be established.
Remember that it is better to stop “school” to work on good habits, the right attitude and godly character, than to relent or ignore real issues to focus on school work. Life is the lesson! Don’t back off from quietly insisting on a positive response, or kind behaviour towards siblings, or obedience to important instructions. Time spent here is worth every minute! It may seem really hard when your days are constantly “interrupted” by behavioural issues. but it is not easier to send them to school for someone professional to ‘sort out’. This is your child and you are their perfect parent, and this is your responsibility and your privilege.
Take time to figure out how. Ask for help if you need it. Work as a team with your hubby. He has a very different approach and if your work together in unity, you will accomplish much! You are created for dependence and don’t need to do this alone. Trust the Lord. He has purposed you for this ministry and He will provide for everything that is needed to accomplish it.
You can do this!
With gracious love, Nadene
I’d love to hear your views and thoughts on this topic! Please would you share yours in the comments.
In case you missed any of my previous “Letters To Me” in this series:
- 1 Learning Not School
- 2 Ideals and Compromise
- 3 Unique Individuals
- 4 Toddlers
- 5 Let Be
- 6 Husband
- 7 Action
- 8 Friends
- 9 Wait
- 10 Come to Pass
- 11 Teens
- 12 Casual Classical Music
- 13 Dare to be Different
- 14 Send Homeschooler To School?
- 15 On Track
- 16 Don’t kill it!
- 17 Perfectionism
- 18 Memories
- 19 Have Fun!
- 20 Trust God