“I loved learning to count in Japanese!” and she proceeded to count out loud in Japanese!
I was stunned! This memorable little lesson was learnt while watching a 3-minute YouTube song we found “by chance” in an online search over 12 years ago. My children loved this hip-hip counting song and it stuck with my daughter all this time.
But more importantly, her reply emphasized again how important it is to plan a wide margin of time to allow the freedom to follow “rabbit trails” or to allow your family to “take the scenic tours” in your themes and topics.
Back then, I was re-using our Sonlight World History core and I had discovered the joy of allowing the schedule to suggest and guide us, and not necessarily feel that I had to stick to their time-frame. If I can remember correctly, their schedule allocated a mere 2 weeks to the Japan study, but we spent over a month covering all the aspects we found on our delight-directed studies.
Not only did my daughters learn to count in Japanese, but they enjoyed their free time and dressed up in kimonos, complete with make-up and hair accessories, and acted out stories. They cooked and ate Japanese foods using chopsticks and our Chinese dinner service, and they practised a tea ceremony. We all learnt origami and my daughters still make origami in their creative projects to this day. We tried our hand at ikebana (flower arranging), made fans, wrote haiku poetry and so on.
May I encourage any mom who is battling with a child or children don’t want to learn or participate, to get creative and look for other ways to find your fit. Not only will your reluctant child rarely learn anything when she is nagged, urged, bribed, cajoled, or even punished, (and, yes, I did all this in my first few years of homeschooling when I was ignorant and idealistic), but this negative energy and relational conflict will rub off onto everything else. If your children show signs of boredom or flat-out refusal, don’t force the issue. If the lesson doesn’t work, then mom, please, for the sake of your sanity and your child’s happiness and their learning joys, look for something similar that might work.
Try a different approach. Look for a video or song or hands-on activity instead of plodding on through a book and tailor-make their learning experience. Remind yourself that homeschooling is actually like offering a learning buffet and you should allow your children to decide what and when they want to eat something.
I have learnt never to underestimate the value of those wonderful, almost magical rabbit-hole learning moments. Sometimes, these happy discoveries may forge a lifelong fascination and enthusiasm for learning. They are the whole reason we homeschool and it may be the one thing that they will remember for a lifetime! I know that this is what works!
Blessings as you give yourselves extra time to follow those rabbit trails, Nadene
All the photos featured are the origami gifts that my daughters have made.