Getting Real ~ Too little done

Here’s another “Getting Real” post  ~ Too Little Done

These “Getting Real” posts series provide a more balanced perspective against the many successes and  “what works” posts that I showcase, but I acknowledge that I am definitely not a supermom and our homeschooling was often less than perfect!

Girl Singing & Holding Chorus BookToo little or nothing done

All new homeschool parents worry about gaps and falling behind.  Please don’t panic!  Even school teachers fall behind.  Even professional tutors don’t cover everything.  More importantly — homeschool is NOT about learning information!  Facts can be learnt anywhere, any time — Google is at our fingertips!

We have some huge gaps in our homeschooling! Some subjects were never actually taught or done.  My children never did any physical education lessons or joined sports clubs.  (I think that they would probably not done any sport if they were at public schools either.)  I did put my foot down regarding the basics, though. We completed all the important school subjects, and I am sure that my children received a good education.

During primary school, we covered full curriculums, completed almost every topic and activity and then some.  I created a weekly schedule that covered daily themes so that we included everything including Shakespeare, poetry, Science experiments and so on.

My eldest child pushed through on everything. She insisted She completed all her courses, did every assignment and learnt and passed all her exams.  But as my children hit high school, they vetoed most my ‘extra’ Charlotte Mason subjects such as Hymn study, Nature Study and nature walks.  Bible study lessons failed to move their hearts and my teens told me I was ‘cheesy’ when I did any devotions or Bible lessons, so I stopped those.

Despite my most diligent attempts and enthusiastic efforts, my high school children glossed over some subjects and one of my kids simply never finished or even read many of her high school set-work books.  We even abandoned some courses.  I felt as if my homeschool vision was falling apart.  But it was just different.

It was important for my husband and I to set firm boundaries and clear expectations.  We insisted on them completing a full high school course with a university exemption.  I always encouraged that my children do their very best, but when it comes to high school, children need to figure out what they want to study, what career interests they wanted to follow.  For each child, that is a unique journey,

Homeschool is about relationships, discovery, and a lifestyle of learning.   Character, life skills and good habits are  more important than learning dry facts or mastering algebra.  Essentially, once our children have learnt their 3 R’s, they can continue learning for themselves all their lives.

So when you see that you are losing ground, slow down and catch up.  It is not a race.  Focus on subjects that have fallen behind for a  few days or a week or two, and you’ll be amazed how quickly your children can catch up.

Sending you huge hugs when you feel things are falling apart.  Please feel free to share your experiences or advice in the comments.

Blessings and grace in these real moments,

Nadene

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6 thoughts on “Getting Real ~ Too little done

  1. Wow! What a blessing to read this tonight! I am so encouraged to know we’re not the only ones who have struggled through high school! Just about everything you wrote spoke to our situation right now. Thank you so very much for being willing to share these things. I needed the reminder that I’m not doing this just to check off the right classes to get our son into college; it’s about relationship and character building, and instilling a love of learning for a lifetime!

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    • @Lynette, I am so glad that sharing my disappointing experiences helps encourage others. It have felt like such a terrible homeschool parent during some of the tough high school years, but I am so grateful that we managed to navigate our way successfully through those rocky stages! Wishing you every blessing as your journey through your son’s final year/s.

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  2. Homeschool is about relationships, discovery, and a lifestyle of learning. Character, life skills and good habits are more important than learning dry facts or mastering algebra. Essentially, once our children have learnt their 3 R’s, they can continue learning for themselves all their lives.

    Thank you, Nadene! I really needed to hear this. It is most encouraging . I could not agree with you more.
    With love,
    Christine

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    • @Christine Mayer, thank you for your confirmation! We need these gently reminders and strong encouragement to find the way that fits for each child through all their stages and phases. Blessing to you and your family!

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  3. Thank you. At the beginning of my homeschooling journey, this reminds me to keep the main thing(s), the main thing – strong relational bridges, character shaping, ease of conversation and delighting in life. Love your posts. God bless

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