I came across the term “Twice Exceptional” while reading Gifted Voices. I had to look up its meaning:
“Twice exceptional (or 2E students) are sometimes also referred to as double labelled, or having dual exceptionality. These are gifted students whose performance is impaired, or high potential is masked, by a specific learning disability, physical impairment, disorder, or condition. They may experience extreme difficulty in developing their giftedness into talent.”
When I studied Remedial Education, I quickly realized that many children with learning difficulties were often gifted. Once I started teaching, I also recognized that many gifted children presented behavioural problems, often similar to those of children with learning difficulties, due to their boredom and frustration with the school system. They often struggled to fit in and seldom discovered their unique gifting and wonderful abilities.
Describing 2E children, TKI explains,
“Gifted students with disabilities are at-risk as their educational and social/emotional needs often go undetected. Educators often incorrectly believe twice-exceptional students are not putting in adequate effort within the classroom. They are often described as ‘lazy’ and ‘unmotivated’. Hidden disabilities may prevent students with advanced cognitive abilities from achieving high academic results. 2E students perform inconsistently across the curriculum. The frustrations related to unidentified strengths and disabilities can result in behavioural and social/emotional issues.”
Because a child struggles with their uniqueness or outside-of-the-box, or have different social-emotional needs, they struggle in the conventional school system. Many parents face the dilemma of whether to stick to the school system or to homeschool their gifted or twice-exceptional child. My advice is that you look for a place where your child can thrive, grow, learn and “become” in the most supportive, loving environment, which is usually at home!
Homeschool parents can tailor-make their educational approach to work with their child’s strengths, while gently encouraging them to strengthen areas of weakness. Because you work one-on-one with your child, you can immediately determine where and when your child is bored or struggles, and adjust your pace or approach.
You can seamlessly include motivation, opportunities, therapy and remedial activities as part of your homeschooling for children with illnesses, disabilities or disorders. Most remedial therapy is presented as games, and often children enjoy these fun activities. Therapy varies. Most children initially require therapy regularly, but as they master skills, these activities can be moderated or stopped. Some children perform better with a therapist, because they may resist or refuse at home, while most therapy requires regular “homework” or practice. Whatever your approach, try avoid instilling in your child a sense of failure or disappointment, or that the child has, or worse still, is a problem.
Homeschooling your twice exceptional child helps you establish a steady routine which is important when dealing with complex problems or disabilities. Parents can establish a healthy or specific diet as well as good sleeping patterns, and these routines and practices are often very helpful in assisting a 2E child.
Most importantly, your homeschooled child is allowed to progress at his/ her own pace without feeling that he/she isn’t the same as the rest of the class. Avoid comparisons at all costs, not even one child with another in your home. Avoid labels. No one wants to know that his/ her person is a medical/ behavioural disorder. Speak of their condition in positives, “My daughter loves to move … to learn well.”
Try find a homeschool family or support group that you and your child can cope with and where you find grace and encouragement. Having a “different” child can often make one feel isolated and insecure. Support groups are very helpful to assist parents who often feel overwhelmed and discouraged.
My youngest daughter would probably have required remedial therapy when she was young, but my husband, in such wisdom, encouraged me to let her be and to encourage her to learn in her own time. We patiently persevered and it has wonderfully paid off. From a struggling emerging reader, she is now our bibliophile and most avid reader in our home!
It may not seem like it now, but you will see your child grow and develop into the most marvelous person that they were created to become. Do not give up!
With all grace and blessings, Nadene
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Lurking on Feedly 🙂 popped in to say thanks for bringing up this topic. We are learning about ADHD in my eldest who reads voraciously. For a long time I thought she was just gifted, because some ADHD symptoms occur when gifted children are bored. We are starting our journey of embracing 2E, and thanking God for home schooling!
@Tasmanian, thanks for popping in to comment. Wishing every blessing as you embrace your daughter’s unique qualities and find what works best to help her thrive and blossom!