What if I told you that the way you praise your child can encourage and stimulate achievement and success in your children? Stop praising kids for their innate or God-given abilities, and instead focus on their effort.
There are two types of mindsets we can cultivate ~
- One that embraces problems as opportunities and who see problems as interesting challenges to learn = a growth mindset
- one that avoids problems and difficulties, often out of fear to fail and avoid conflicts = a fixed mindset
Watch this excellent video presenting Carol Dweck’s studies on “How to help every child fulfill their potential” ~
Dweck says, “If you’re a parent, you likely want to explore not just why a growth mindset is advantageous, but also how to encourage your kids to develop that kind of attitude.” In her research, she discovered that the way we praise children effects their mindset.
Here are 3 ways parents praised their children:
- They praised one group for their innate intelligence = value intelligence & results = This praise put kids into a fixed mindset.
- They praised one group for the processes they came up with to solve the test = value effort = This praise pushed these children into a growth mindset.
- They praised a third group, as a control, for a passing score, without mentioning either their intelligence or the process they had used.
But Dweck discovered that, “The most astonishing thing to us was that praising intelligence turned kids off to learning.”
Remember the fabulous word “YET” because it allows a child to set up a process, e.g.: “I’m not good at Maths, yet.” Encourage your child to keep trying and praise them for their process, struggle and effort.
Remember Praise PROCESS!