Here’s the next letter my series ~ “Letter To Me” where I share the letters I wrote to myself, encouraging myself (and, hopefully, other new homeschoolers) with what I wish I had known when I started out on our homeschooling journey ~ Dear Nadene
Homeschooling is a family affair. You may be a professional, qualified teacher with years of teaching experience, but include your husband in your homeschooling decisions and plans.
Honour him. Right at the outset, announce him as your school principal and encourage and allow him to have full authority and input. You need his strong cover. He will balance you. He will encourage you, He will maintain your vision. He will be the strength and wisdom you need in those turbulent years.
Share your homeschool days with him often. Encourage your children to show him their work, narrate their stories to him, recite their poems and plays. Share your vision and hopes for each child and pray together for your children.
Include him in the positives as well as the negatives. Don’t only include him as the disciplinarian. Dad is “the wall”, while mom is “the pillow”, but don’t always make him the “bad” cop. Hold yourself and your children accountable to him. Ask your husband to speak to your children regarding their schedules, attitudes, character issues, diligence, and future plans. And also acknowledge breakthroughs and successes as a family.
Some fathers are excellent tutors in certain subjects. Some dads are very involved with their kids’ schooling. Some dads work away from home and moms pretty much carry the entire homeschool portfolio. Whatever the season or the reason, this is your family’s journey, and dad should be included whenever and however possible.
Plan outings and field trips or group meetings where dads can come along. Make memories together. This is not “school at home”, but a lifestyle of learning.
Remember that this is just a season in your lives. When all is said and done, you will always be your husband’s wife and not the teacher. Nadene, you know that sometimes it is easier to perform and measure your success in your children’s progress and happiness, than to be open and available to minister to your husband’s needs. Don’t neglect him. Invest in your marriage. Upgrade from time to time. A happily married wife makes a much more gracious, loving mom.
Blessings from your older, and hopefully much wiser self,
I’d love to hear your views and thoughts on this topic! Please, would you share yours in the comments?
In case you missed any of my previous “Letters To Me” in this series: